So here I am in Fort Greene in Brooklyn and I am at the end of my apt lease. Again. I swear the time just speeds up year after year. Honestly, I wasn’t looking to move this time around but in weighing out the pros and cons most signs pointed to moving. I’ve had roommates for most of my duration in New York minus a year spent on the Upper East Side and it’s been such an adjustment. Because it’s not just having a roommate but having a roommate in a small New York apartment with a shared bathroom.
Obviously, not ideal.
So I took to the streets again to find a new apt. One that was perfect for me. One that I could really make mine and truly be happy and cozy in.
Ring the alarm!
I found a studio apartment that I love. I don’t know too much about the neighborhood but the building is fantastic, the studio is perfect for me and Huxley and the amenities had me mad crushing from the first moment I laid eyes on them. Like I was crushing hard guys.
In Cali I had the amenities and the washer and dryer and the space and all the things. In New York you really choose how you want to spend your money and make sacrifices and compromises on what you truly value.
I’ve spoken to a lot of people about how I’ve moved so much in the short time I’ve been here and a lot of New Yorkers have the same story. It takes a while to figure out what you can and cannot put up with and there are so many variations of that when living here that it’s really just trial and error.
It’s also a fantastic way to become familiar with different neighborhoods. Albeit, a bit cumbersome.
I did a lot of traveling last year (Cuba, Dominican Republic, San Diego, NorCal, Chile/Argentina, Paris, St John USVI) and I feel tremendously grateful I got to do so. Especially in part because I’m working a job that I’m not taking seriously and also because my rent has been the cheapest it’s been this whole time I’ve been in New York.
This year my focus is changing a bit. I’m starting to get serious about finding a new career. I want to strengthen and build upon the relationships I have here that have become important to me. The flip side of that is to let go of relationships that I feel don’t serve me and align with who I am /want to be. That includes culling my social media “friends”. I will become more involved in community volunteering as well as continue to resist and fight the good fight for basic human rights. I want to take a class or two. And lastly I want to have a home that makes me feel good and enables me to make better choices because of the peace it brings me. If that means no more walk ups, paying more for amenities and rent, ditching the roomies etc I am willing to do so.
As always there are a lot of moving parts to being a grown ass person. There are choices given and decisions to be made. I’ve said it before life keeps lifin’. Even if you choose not to participate.
It’s going to be a good year. I feel more motivated. More myself. I know more of who I am which is a great feeling. I’m past the funk and the processing of my feelings and emotions and beliefs and unfulfilled expectations. Now’s the time for action and doing while continuing to process. In this space I am able to be me, do for me, and celebrate me whilst all of that happens.
I’m into this new change if that means that things will settle more in the long run. I feel a bit more grounded so time to start making magic again! Wish me luck!